Thursday, July 29, 2010

The Knitty Gritty Wedding Dish

Lately my life has mainly consisted of wedding and deployment...... and the many things I throw in there to try and distract myself from the later. During this I have tried to blog about other things because lets face it at this point I'm not sure who's more ready for this deployment to be over --- me or you.

Who am I kidding you only have to hear about it, so therefor I automatically win on the "who's ready for to be over worse" front.

Anyway, moving on ------> it was pointed out to me that in my trying not to bore you I completely forgot to give you an update on bridesmaids and wedding issues.

I received enthusiastic phone calls and texts saying yes - others laughing at me as they said yes....

So the final lineup is: Marine-Sis, Vixen, Blondie, Nurse Betty, Hollywood, Babbles, LC and then Giggles as my Matron of Honor.

And Red and Punk-Rock-Chick (if she can make it, she lives out of state now....) are going to keep my guestbook - I need two people because of the wonderful idea I had awhile back.

Also since my last wedding update Blondie has moved her date from the Saturday before to two Saturdays before so there will be one weekend between the two weddings. Needless to say I'm not much bothered by this but the friends are not happy. And I can't really blame them we had agreed on no more back to back weddings. With that said we did it once, we can do it again!

I'm trying to stay positive on the matter.

I have decided to make a few changes though. When I sent out my bridesmaid email I included pictures of the two dresses I was planning on using.

Blondie picked the same dress for her wedding.

She is using purple.

I'm using black.

I know they will look different but I really do not want to use the same dresses. I mean the majority of the guests will be the same at both weddings.

Blondie asked if I mind and I don't want to hurt her feelings but I want to be nice at the same time so I kinda sidestep the question by responding, "I just don't want our weddings to look exactly alike. If they were months apart I wouldn't worry about it, but being so close together I just don't want things to be identical."

Her wedding is going to be first so this is a concept lost on her as she points out again that even though its the same dress they are going to be different colors.

I once again take a deep breath and tell myself that 10 years from now this won't matter.

Which basically boils down to that I'm spineless and I agreed.

I don't want to hurt her feelings and I want her wedding day to be perfect for her and as a friend sometimes you have to make sacrifices. Did I mention she wants me to be her maid of honor?

So its back to the drawing board. I've about decided to just say the heck with it and let everyone pick out their own dresses. As long as its black and knee length what does it matter.

I have so many other more important things going on right now I really don't care about bridesmaids dresses!! Is that bad? I just want Marine to make it home safe. Once he does then I'll worry about bridesmaids dresses and everything being just so.

Location update: I have (and have had for sometime) a location. But there is another location that I really want!!!!!!!!!!! I'll call it the dream location because it is perfect in every way.

Problem is that it is under foreclosure.

The bank has said to contact them in December and that they may possibly work with me. We'll see.

Its an equestrian farm that has a large banquet area - see I told you it's perfect! Marine and I are horse people so our perfect location would be something that included that aspect of our life. So we shall see.

If it doesn't work out it's ok we have another place lined up. But in reality I just don't feel it. You know that "this is the place" type feeling..... So we shall see.

I have everything else lined up; DJ, Photographer, Caterer, Honeymoon (so super excited! Also main reason we booked so early is because we got a fantastic deal!).

Everything else I have picked out it just needs to be assembled; centerpieces, invitations, programs.

The only thing I don't have is favors but I have a few ideas there so I'm not worried.

In life nothing is ever perfect, but sometimes imperfect can be perfect. Years from now I'm not going to look back and remember the dresses that my bridesmaids wore, I'm going to think back and remember that wonderful feeling - the giddiness excitement of marrying the man of my dreams.

I'm also going to remember the look on Marine's face when he sees me riding up on Horse in my beautiful wedding dress......

Yeah that's going to be a surprise for him..... I'll tell you that funny story later.

"Sometimes things have to be a little imperfect for them to be perfect."
~ E. ~


Date Girl said...

OH I love the dream location. Maybe since it's bank owned they'll give you a good deal!! How great would that be? And so exciting that you're able to ride up on Horse. How fitting!

As far as the dresses go-didn't you like two of them? Is it possible to just pick the other dress, the one your friend isn't using? Or maybe go another route all together. I think she's being a total turd for copying you. It is supposed to be the most sincere form of flattery but it drives me nuts!!

I'm excited for your wedding and hearing more about the plans. :-) That's great that all your ladies want to be bridesmaids. That's going to be a whopping bridal party which will mean so much help and fun!!

cornflakegirl74 said...

Awww, I'm so excited for you :) And you're absolutely right... years from now, the flowers, the dress, the cake, etc., won't matter. But you'll remember the way you felt on your wedding day and that THAT MOMENT was perfect. I can't wait to read about the rest of your journey!

I also think you did the right thing with your friend. As you said, sometimes certain sacrifices have to be made for the sake of friendship (and to spare an argument/hurt feelings in the end). And I have seen a lot of weddings recently with black/white theme (bridesmaids all in black) and they got to pick out different styles of dresses that looked great for their figure ('cause let's face it, we're not all shaped the same way!) and the pictures always looked beautiful.

phoebe said...

thanks for the update! i'm so glad that everything is falling into place.

yeah! that is a heck of a wedding party :-) i'm sure the girls will be more than happy to help out in every way possible.

good luck finding another dress for the bridal party. for the wedding i'm going to be in, we're choosing our own dresses, all in the same color (i mean, we'll all go shopping to the same store, but we'll each be able to pick the dress that is most flattering on us). so that may be a good idea too :-)

One of The Guys said...

The whole thing from the dresses, to the place, to you and Marine is so exciting.

Yes, you're right. In ten years the only thing that will matter is that the two of you are happily married.

Have fun and enjoy the weekend!